Emotional Avoidance: Why we get stuck emotionally
The reason most people get stuck in repetitive patterns is emotional avoidance. We are convinced on some level that our emotions are bigger than us in some way. It almost feels like if we let ourselves totally feel whatever is coming up that we will get lost in the hell of that emotion forever. The truth is that there is no way to really suppress emotions. We can only push them from one area to another like when we squeeze a balloon and the air goes to the rest of the balloon. The end result of emotional avoidance is sickness and disease.
One of peoples’ favorite forms of emotional avoidance is to intellectualize. We try to process emotions with reason and logic. That seems logical to the mind, but everything that prioritizes the mind gets agreement from the mind. The mind is a kind of inner dictator, always trying to control everything by figuring things out. If you think you are in control of your mind then try making it stop. If you can stop your inner dialogue at will then you have accomplished a great feat that few can claim.
Finding out why doesn’t always solve the problem
That isn’t to say that there is no use to thinking about causes. The energy healing sessions I offer involve a lot of talking about underlying causes. Humans are thinking creatures and that is good. We need to process our emotions emotionally, not mentally. We can actually digest our emotions. When we digest our emotions they become either wisdom or shit. We embody the wisdom and let go of the shit. Trying to digest emotions mentally would be like trying to stick a piece of meat in your brain rather than your stomach and hope it gets digested.
We need to really feel our emotions if we are going to heal them. I love guiding people through the process of really feeling their feelings and finding out that they can handle whatever comes up. The fact is that if you really feel an emotion down to the core, you will transform the emotional pattern on a fundamental level. The more you can make that a part of your life, the more spontaneous, creative and joyful you become.