The Feeling of Deserving and Manifestation are deeply linked. You cannot manifest what you feel that you don’t deserve without causing some kind of compensating negative manifestation. And deserving isn’t about coming to an intellectual conclusion. Thoughts and beliefs are powerful when it comes to what we manifest but emotions are much more potent forces than thoughts.
For example, you may somehow end up manifesting the money you desire, but because of an inner feeling of not being good enough you could lose it just as quickly, like many lottery winners have.
The Matrix of our civilization is based on insecurity and feeling inadequate. We are taught that we are not good enough, or might not be, by advertising, entertainment and media in general. We are taught that we do not deserve what we desire and that desire itself is evil. From the Adam and Eve story to now we have been taught that we do not deserve the experiences we desire.
Deserving is key to manifestation.
In my transformational healing and hypnosis practice I come up against clients’ feelings of not being ‘good enough’ almost every day. I see how we all limit ourselves based on our feelings around our value as human beings. Most of us, in one way or another, were taught that we were not good enough ‘as is’. All of us, on some level, were given explicit messages about our unworthiness. We are asked what we want to be when we grow up as if we aren’t already something amazing. American society in particular teaches us that competition is more important than joy. Competition is encouraged. Becoming an artist, not so much. We are discouraged from jobs that come from our passion but may be less lucrative.
Joy is your birthright
You deserve the joy you were born with even if it was systematically mocked, shamed or beaten out of you. You deserve to follow the path of your joy because that is the path of your soul, your true self. Look at babies and children when they get curious and when they light up with joy. That’s still somewhere inside of you.
To get to a place of deserving we need to heal cynicism. Look at cynicism and look at joy. Which would you rather be feeling right now? The wounded ego hides in the all-knowing veneer of cynicism at the expense of the wonder of the suppressed inner child. We need to get back to a state of wonder and innocence and we can’t do that if we don’t feel that we deserve our joy and that we don’t deserve to follow our passions.
When you were young, you were mocked for your innocence at some point. You were made fun of for getting excited about something that ‘wasn’t cool’. You conformed to prevent being ridiculed and rejected. This conformity disconnected you from the source of your being. Now you think you aren’t good enough and don’t deserve what you have or what you want to have.
I’m not advocating an egotistical spoiled brat kind of deserving. That’s not the goal. It’s just a way of dealing with the trauma mentioned above. I’m advocating self love and self nurturing. I’m advocating healing the trauma of rejection and judgement and reclaiming the innocence of a child. Your inner child is still within you and your higher self is at your service. You deserve the divine desires you incarnated with. You arrived on Earth with them because they were meant to serve as a roadmap to a life purpose of joyful self expression.
The Feeling of Deserving
So then, the question is, how do we conjure up this feeling of deserving? My answer to this question and questions like this is that we first need to clear out everything that is in the way of that feeling. My contention is that the feeling of deserving is innate. We don’t so much have to create it as to clear out the false beliefs and the traumas that are in the way. A lot of my work is about doing just that and, for the most part that is all that is needed.
Beyond that you can always do things like use affirmations. Tools like affirmations can also help you get deeper into finding the constrictions that need to be healed within you. If you look in the mirror and do an affirmation like, “I deserve everything that I authentically desire.” you may experience feelings of discomfort that are connected to your feelings of unworthiness.