When you avoid an emotion, on some level you think that you ‘can’t take it’. You think that the emotion is too strong for you to handle. It’s not so much that you go through a whole intellectual process about all of this. For most people emotional avoidance is the norm. It seems to come with our operating system. We think it’s obvious that we don’t want to feel unpleasant things. Emotional avoidance requires a false self image because the real you has no need to avoid any feeling.
So, who is this ‘you’ that can’t handle an emotion that your body-mind is generating? Because, remember, it is you who are generating this emotion in the first place and then resisting it. Is this you a vulnerable person with a limited life span and an unlimited time of terrifying abyss after that or are you an immortal spirit that never dies but always changes form? Are you a person who has been victimized your whole life and are just trying to be safe or are you an evolving being who is on a path of awakening? These ways of identifying who you really are do matter.
As I said above, emotional avoidance is the norm. It is only a question of degrees. Nobody wants to suffer and that’s very healthy. But being in a constant state of emotional avoidance only hinders spiritual and emotional evolution. My recommendation is to actually feel any emotion that arises. Be the ‘bigger person’ and let your difficult emotions approach you as the wounded children they are. Doing this puts you in the frequency of your soul. Love your inner children and allow them to be heard. Then you will transcend this pattern of emotional avoidance and drastically speed up your process of spiritual awakening.